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Hogmanay Memory Lane (Part 2)

I have made a gallery of the most evocative photographs of 2013 for me.  It was Pup’s year and so he features quite a bit.  I had a life changing experience over the summer – represented by two images not previously shared here – the misty morning view of Kirrie Hill was taken the morning I launched the Steps Tay Health walks; I shared that picture with a special person.  The following week I saw this strange start to a rainbow which went on to be a rare double rainbow; I did not find out for a few days but that was the day that special person died – totally unexpectedly.  Three days later there was what I can only describe as a Rainbow storm (15 rainbows in 3 hours many of them double and/or supernumerary).  Finally organising the Christmas Market is represented by the tree and finishing with my boys curled up with the Cairn over the Christmas break.

It has been quite a year all in all.  I am still not in work so financially life remains tough; including having to fight to keep my home and the bank complaint is still not resolved.  The boys have been fantastic company and I wouldn’t have found it as easy to keep going without them both.

I started some studies using Massive Open Online Courses (MOOCs) and have met people worldwide which has been both amazing and scary.  One of those people was that special person.  I am sad that he has gone but happy that in a few short months we had a friendship filled with sharing, laughter and open communication – we both knew that we chatted because we each wanted to and there were no taboo topics of conversation.  I finally succeeded in not placing any conditions on another person and I have never missed someone so greatly when we were not actually chatting.

After he died some friends seem to have faded away – not sure whether they cannot cope with my feelings or they don’t know how to respond.  I always miss friends when this happens but I am not chasing after them so if they are choosing to walk a different path I wish them well and hope they will be happy.

Overall I have  a lot to be thankful for and this song has really stuck out for me these past few days …

There are two people I would love to share this with … but one of them I no longer can and the other, having shared the journey through life and grief for  a few weeks has now struck out on his own path … I will let my thankful heart sing out the song in the hope that he might hear it and know it is from me.


Somedays we forget
To look around us
Somedays we can’t see
The joy that surrounds us
So caught up inside ourselves
We take when we should give.

So for tonight we pray for
What we know can be.
And on this day we hope for
What we still can’t see.
It’s up to us to be the change
And even though we all can still do more
There’s so much to be thankful for.

Look beyond ourselves
There’s so much sorrow
It’s way too late to say
I’ll cry tomorrow
Each of us must find our truth
It’s so long overdue

So for tonight we pray for 
What we know can be
And every day we hope for
What we still can’t see
It’s up to us to be the change
And even though we all can still do more
There’s so much to be thankful for.

Even with our differences 
There is a place we’re all connected
Each of us can find each other’s light

So for tonight we pray for
What we know can be
And on this day we hope for 
What we still can’t see
It’s up to us to be the change
And even though this world needs so much more

There’s so much to be thankful for

Part of the reason I am able to be thankful despite the struggles is because I set out to find and learn from Serenity.  It has helped immensely and I have  aboard on Pinterest to keep reminding me of this.  For 2014 my OLW is “Successful” and I already have a board to represent this.  My dreams and plans of starting the hostel are still there but so are the challenges to overcome in getting started – including someone else considering purchasing the building.  I have to focus on getting some income and then hope I can still proceed with the hostel but if that building goes I can at least adapt my plan to another community, although that will feel sad after I have fought so hard to stay in this community.

So farewell 2013 … and bring it on 2014.  And to each of you (as they say hereabout) Lang may your lum reek …


To Rent … one Bijou Residence … hardly used

Found under the clematis bush this morning … available for re-siting if preferred!

What is Red and Dangles?

Okay who is tittering at the back … no it isn’t a part of my anatomy that has got sunburnt (I know this because none of me is sunburnt – I am reasonably good with the sunscreen).  Just because you laughed I will make you wait to see …

… hand up if you just skipped this and scrolled to the bottom to peek? Read More…

One Man’s Waste …

As the moon rose above the horizon wreathed in the sunset pinked clouds I was just coming in from a stint at the bottom of the jungle.  After a very hot sunny day – which I spent indoors working on some things – I needed some physical exercise and fresh air – so I went to dig a trench.  I am going to but a herringbone of bricks against the fence at the end to make a zig zag edge which is compacted enough to stand pots on.

In digging in the really nice soil I have I found a tonne more glass – in small sheets and big chunks – why anyone buries their windows at the bottom of the garden I really don’t know!  Then I found more slate to go on the slate bed and finally I found two huge local stones buried,  So a shallow bit of digging ended up needing  a health and safety risk assessment and some strong muscles to get the stones out and moved – more hard landscaping  to complete the partial rockery I already have.

Next I wrestled with the network of nettle roots … ladies seriously do not waste money on a fancy gym – find some one with a nettle patch that needs uprooting; it works the core as well as all the arm and leg muscles … and it is very satisfying when you get a big network out in one

Colour Makes Such a Difference

So look at this huge range of fence stains … my sheds are in colours form the left hand palette (Wild Thyme) and (Lavender); in a previous garden I did use the Iris with Lavender – because blue tones make something appear further away (think about aerial perspective and the hills and how blue and distant they can look).

For the past 7 years the end of my garden has been painted orange … this photo doesn’t really do the glow justice …

But late this morning Pup woofed his deep woof and when I went out my neighbour had been in and repainted it in a gorgeous rich dark brown … Read More…


I was going to tease you all a little longer but my secret has already been guessed – this will be Insect Marbella … a highrise of bits and bobs that will provide nooks and crannies, sheltered crevices and even food for the garden bugs.  Now I am not majorly enamoured with bugs but (1) they mostly do a good job n the garden and (2) I don’t feed the birds but this will give them some natural foods to hunt for.

I have chosen to put it against the block wall; it will be tucked in the back of the border, it will be shaded from most of the day’s sun but will get a nice warm on an evening to tuck the little creepy crawlies in for a good night’s sleep.  More to follow as it gets completed.

Pup is currently on hedgehog patrol … so I need to be vigilant and am up and down like a jack in the box.

This will have to be just a tease too because the other views have not finished rendering but this is a whole other sort of jungle inspired desres  – the ultimate tree house?

Built to resemble a big hollow tree with a spiral of steel beams form a central ‘hollow trunk’ –  look at that cosy window seat just waiting to welcome us for a picnic …

Upcycling …

So today promised to be tedious – signing on – advisor interview … rain if it was like yesterday!  So what really happened?

My appointment was 11 so I went out for the 09:46 bus which gave me time to go to the library and print off the evidence of my job searching activity.  We saw the bus go into Kirrie about 5 minutes late so when it got to 10:00 and it had not returned we started to think something had gone wrong.  We got giddy and hatched plans to hijack a spraying tractor and it’s bowser unit.  We set the world to rights – well our little corner of it at least.  We swapped details of our activities once we got to the other end of the bus journey.

A bus went into Kirrie “out of service” so we reasoned that soon we would have a bus …

The next bus went into Kirrie on time and I got a lovely cheery wave from the driver.

We waited. Read More…

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